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Weekly roundup

16 Apr

Last week, I…

*Had my first baseline mammogram. Yep, I’m old. Thankfully, it wasn’t nearly as bad as people say it is.

*Tried to figure out  how I would treat a 5-year-old that was going through what I’m going through. (Yep, still no answers on that one.)

*Had another fitting for my dance dress. Can’t wait!

*Reminded myself that the comparison game can be dangerous, and the important comparison is my life to what I want it to be.

*Made a great chicken pasta with lemon cream sauce and a FANTASTIC chocolate salted caramel shortbread. YUM.

*Had coffee with KB at a great neighborhood coffeehouse – outside on a beautiful Minnesota morning. Much laughter ensued.

*Got deblonded again by my hair stylist. I love being a brunette!

*Dinner and shopping with SR and NA. This involved pretty cocktails like a strawberry mojito…

and a pear-lavender martini…

and a glass of red wine for me because I was driving.

*Bought something I’ve wanted for a really long time…

red heels!! I finally found a pair with a good size heel in the right shade of red for a reasonable price.

*Had two great dance lessons.

And most importantly….

*Found out that enough people have signed up and put money down for Dance-O-Rama in Chicago, so now the price is cheap enough that I CAN GO!!!!!! Bucket list items being crossed off. Dreams coming true here, people. DREAMS COMING TRUE!!!!

Birthday!

20 Sep

I had an awesome birthday!

Probably my best one in years. First of all, I took the day off work. This morning, I got a haircut from the great Jennifer at 526 Salon. She’s so good and she’s a lot of fun. She did my hair all fun with waves and curls.

Then I had to go to Sprint to get a new battery for my cell. It couldn’t be a day of all fun, ya know. While they were working on it, I went to Caribou for my free bday drink!

Love that!

Next, a dance lesson. Always a great way to spend some time and make myself feel good. We started working on a Viennese waltz open freestyle. Very fancy, very difficult but very fun! My friends the H’s who own the condo I went to this summer couldn’t be at the studio today, so they made arrangements for a dozen long-stemmed roses (yellow, white and red) to be delivered to me at the studio.

That was so sweet – I can’t even remember the last time I got flowers. Nate sang “Happy Birthday” to me, and Jay played it on the stereo for me. Very fun. I took the red wine chocolate cake to the studio for the staff too.

Oh, and I got my Super Saturday critique from the judge. Guess what? He thought my swing was fantastic! Who knew? Apparently everyone but me. So my reality about my ability to dance the swing is continuing to change. I think I may conquer this by Showcase.

Then I fed my creative side: I went to Needlework Unlimited for yarn to make baby stuff to try and sell and then to Bead Monkey to figure out what classes I want to take to continue making bracelets and earrings to try and sell. I’m trying to earn extra money to go to a Dance-O-Rama next year. I’m going to explore the Etsy website and see if I can sell some stuff.

Afterwards, I was in the area so I stopped at the Edina studio to see Rachel. Then off to my part-time job for a bit where I got to see my friends JF and NA. Then back to the studio for group class on cha cha taught by the amazing Amy (who made it sooooooo fun) and the practice party.

My friends and the staff at the studio made a fuss. LS made a red velvet chocolate cake for me – oh my yum. TL made a “Happy Birthday Cathy” sign. Lots of birthday wishes from all the students. The K’s came to the party just for me – they’re really advanced dancers so they usually don’t come to the Tuesday party (which is geared for newcomers and beginners).

TL gave me a small bottle of whiskey – yay! The S’s gave me a sweet card. The K’s gave me a candle and a book of sayings about living happy. 65 friends wrote on my FB wall. 5 friends texted me. 3 people called me.

I have awesome people in my life. I feel very happy with my life and with who I am, and I feel very loved by many people. All in all, an amazeballs day!!!! Love you all!

 

Roll out the barrel – we’re going to Nyes!

14 Aug

I tend to be a homebody. When I was married, we rarely agreed on what we wanted to do for a night out, so we ended up staying in and watching movies (Star Wars AGAIN?) most nights. I’ve already commented on how I didn’t have a ton of friends post-marriage. Add to that the fact that my dog had severe separation anxiety and couldn’t be left at home alone and the fact that I have a tiny bit of social anxiety, and you end up with someone who stays at home a lot. Like ALL THE TIME. Unless I’m at the dance studio of course.

So part of my figuring out where my life is going involves being more social. It’s not hard to be more social than I am now – it’s not hard to be more social than barely social. Friend AM is about as social as you can get – she goes out most nights. (Oh to be in your twenties again and have the energy for that. Well, that might be the only thing I miss from my twenties. Oh wait, there is also….there’s….yep, that’s pretty much the only thing I miss.) She knows of my quest, so she invites me out a lot. And she pushes, in a gentle sort of way, me to not stay in.

Last night, our friend MP had a party. MP is moving to Duluth next weekend for her last year of college and to be near her boyfriend. MP and I met through AM and have gotten to know each other some. We’ve never really hung out together, but we chat occasionally. So she invited me to her party which was a gathering that started at Nyes. I had told MP I was going, but all week I kept having second thoughts. One of the most difficult things for me to do is walk into a gathering of people where I know like 1 or 2 people. Terribly difficult for me. (It’s the reason I skipped MM’s birthday shindig a few weeks ago. A decision I regretted instantly.) So I knew I wanted to go; it was just causing some anxiety for me. AM knows this, of course, about me, so she had me meet her at her house so we could ride together.

Part of my anxiety also comes from what to wear. I am not a girly girl. (Comes from being one of the guys for so long.) Friend RM has taken me under her wing the last few years to try and teach me. Friend AL has tried to help too. I’m learning and can do pretty well with work and dance outfits, but I just don’t quite know what to wear for the whole girls night out thing. That’s part of why I like getting ready for evenings at AM’s place. She has such style, she’s beautiful, and I learn a lot about hair and makeup from her. I can’t actually do any of it but at least I know the theory. (That’s a step in the right direction, right?)

After we picked up MM and stop for them to buy cigarettes, we went to Nyes. (God, I miss my cigarillos. My mother “accidentally” threw them out when I moved home because I made the mistake of leaving them out. I don’t smoke often, but they are so good with a scotch or a whiskey or a gin and tonic.) MP was so happy we made it out for her party. I hadn’t been to Nyes in a long time. It hasn’t change at all. Shocking, right? It probably hasn’t changed since it opened. The waitress who has been there since time began took our order. Vodka tonic for me, gin and tonic for MM, dirty vodka martini for AM – also known as our usuals and also known as sweet nectar of the gods. Yay – alcohol! You know how rarely I get to drink. Yay – vodka!!!!! Of course, we trade drinks and sip each others drinks. I love the dirty martinis AM orders – I just don’t have the tolerance for them. I have zero tolerance these days.

I had so much fun with them last night! It kinda made me wonder why I hesitate to go out. I mean, I know why, and I also know that 5 years ago, the person I was then would not have been able to overcome it and go. But it makes me sad that I had to wait so long to become more this person than that person. Oh well, coulda, shoulda, woulda is a waste of time.

(Hmm, we never made it to the other side of Nyes where the polka band is. Sadness. Everyone should experience that at some point.)

So I need to remember this night when I think twice about going out with friends. I also need to remember: Fellowship with the girls is fun. I need to buy more cigarillos. Going outside my comfort zone is a good thing and a good exercise for me. And alcohol is still yummy!

“Stay busy, get plenty of exercise, and don’t drink too much.  Then again, don’t drink too little.”  -Herman “Jackrabbit” Smith-Johannsen

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